What Willem told me, why I reached out, and what happened afterward.
Written from my point of view. This page separates my recollection from what the messages actually show.
The group-page screenshot provides community context; it is not an allegation against the group or its members.
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One afternoon, Willem and I were watching TV and drinking. During that time, he told me something that bothered me. He said that, while a woman he knew was away returning an animal she had been pet-sitting, he took her underwear without her knowledge and used it sexually.
That is what he told me. I did not witness the incident myself. I am not claiming that I did.
The conversation did not end that afternoon. Over the following week, I spoke with him more about what he had told me. We talked about why he had not told her, what it meant to cross someone’s boundaries, and why he was still pursuing a relationship with her. Some of those follow-up conversations happened when I was no longer drinking.
At first, I tried to leave it alone. Eventually, I decided to warn the woman privately. My reason was simple: if someone told me they had done that with another person’s belongings, I believed the person affected deserved to know what had been said.
My understanding is that she initially expressed that the conduct was wrong and indicated she would cut contact. I also understand that she later disputed that position. Those conversations are not independently established by the screenshots shown on this page, so I am not presenting either reaction as settled fact.
Willem tells me about alleged conduct involving a woman’s underwear while she was away. This part is from my recollection, not from a recording.
I ask about her boundaries, why she was not told, and the fact that he continued to pursue her. The Discord messages document him responding to those concerns. Exhibit 01 Screenshot files for this exchange contain a September 12, 2024 creation date; this is file metadata, not independent verification of when every message was sent.
I reach out to the woman privately. This is my account of what I did; her messages are not among the screenshots currently displayed here.
Willem and I argue in messages. In a group thread he asks why I do not tell people what he did. Exhibit 04
Some responses focus on the fact that the information was shared in confidence, how long people have known Willem, and why I brought it up later. Exhibits 05–08
Date labels distinguish dates printed in a message from file metadata. “Today” is relative to when a screenshot was captured. Dates are not inferred from filenames or upload times.
I did not think this was a normal secret to keep. It involved another person’s belongings and boundaries. If the account he gave me was accurate, she was the person affected.
I told her because I thought she should have the information and decide for herself what to do with it. That is different from trying to make that decision for her.
I understand that others disagree with how I handled it, and I am not asking people to take my word as proof of the underlying incident. I am explaining why I acted and showing the conversations I can document.
Name clarification: Willem and “Serazel” refer to the same person in this account. Serazel is the username used in the Discord messages.
The person I am talking about is Willem, who used the name Serazel in our Discord conversations. We knew each other socially through overlapping interests and people in the local gaming community.
His own messages refer to “what I did,” regret over telling me, and a belief that his conduct had consequences. They are important context. They are not a recording of the original event or a complete written description of the alleged incident.
The screenshots are provided so readers can distinguish what I remember from what is written down.
The argument changed quickly. Instead of only discussing what I had been told, people asked why I brought it up and why I would share something that had been told to me in confidence.
A family member wrote “In confidence” in response to my explanation. A member of our shared circle asked “why now,” said they had known Willem longer, and eventually told me to leave them alone. I am including those exchanges because they help explain how the disagreement unfolded, not because knowing someone for longer proves anything about the original allegation.
One of my messages in the group discussion says that I did not want to tell everyone; I wanted to tell the person I believed had been affected. That is the distinction I have been trying to make.
This video is included only as context that we were hanging out during that period. It does not establish the date of the alleged incident or prove any allegation described on this page.
Video supplied for this account · Context for us hanging out during that period; no date independently verified.
These are copies of the screenshot files I provided. Tap or click an image to open it at full size. The existing blacked-out portions were already in the supplied images.
Screenshot metadata: September 12, 2024 · The messages display “Today,” not a full calendar date.
My message about boundaries and the response beginning “given what I did to her...”
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Screenshot metadata: September 12, 2024 · The messages display “Today,” not a full calendar date.
A reply saying he should not have told anyone about what he did.
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Screenshot metadata: September 12, 2024 · The messages display “Today,” not a full calendar date.
He says “You have done nothing wrong,” then argues about expectations and boundaries.
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The discussion turns into an argument over telling other people, including “why don’t you tell them what I did.”
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Messages showing that a family member viewed the disclosure as a breach of confidence.
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My question about why the issue was not being taken seriously.
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A reply focuses on knowing Willem longer; I explain why I am relying on texts.
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The person asks why I spoke up later and tells me to stop contacting them.
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Additional screenshots that were shared in the conversation but not available as downloadable source files for this build are not represented as though they were reviewed or included. Two other available images showing unrelated individuals’ contact and event details were intentionally omitted from the public-facing gallery.
I stand by my account of what Willem told me, my reason for telling her, and the messages I have kept. I am not asking anyone to harass him or anyone else. I want people to understand the difference between what I was told, what I personally did, and what I can show in writing.
I believe I had good reason to contact her. People can disagree with that choice. But the discussion should be about what happened and what the evidence actually says—not a story that makes the person who raised the concern the entire issue.